Nappy Free!
By Nicole Moore
Nappy/diaper
free, elimination communication, natural infant hygiene … all names for
a system of toileting so ancient that it probably precedes names
altogether! This very natural, gentle, environmentally friendly way of
dealing with your babies waste is based on the belief that babies are
aware of their elimination processes from birth and are able to
communicate this awareness, and that sphincter control is learnt from
birth in a gradual process until full control is reached, somewhere
between 1 and 2 ½ years of age.
“Chinese parents practise
this style of elimination communication as they believe that eating and
eliminating are co-existing elements and should be given equal
importance for good health.” Says Laurie Boucke in her book, Infant
Potty Training.
The nappy/diaper free method begins with
observation on the part of the carers. This can take place at any time
from birth onwards, but will probably be easier with a younger baby,
whilst he or she retains an awareness of and communicates their
elimination needs in some way. Many babies lose this awareness around 6
months, and this method is more difficult after that time. It involves
the child being bare bottomed, so that the carer can see exactly when
urination or defecation has taken place, and the signs or body language
that the baby gives prior to elimination. It is very easy to have a
newborn that doesn’t yet roll lying on a small blanket, or a cloth
nappy that can washed if soiled. There is an increased likelihood of
mess when starting with an older child, but as the carer comes to know
their child’s patterns, this is reduced very quickly. Weighing up the
time spent cleaning up your child’s mess, as opposed to washing cloth
nappies is a little redundant here because with this system you are
doing more than dealing with your child’s wastes. You are also
enhancing your communication and bond with your baby, moving gently
towards early toileting independence, removing the risk of genital
rashes and saving heaps of energy and water used in washing cloth
nappies and /or all the money that you would otherwise be spending on
disposables.
As Sarah Buckley, GP and mother of four
notes, “Elimination Communication also makes a beautiful contribution
to my experience of mindfulness in my mothering. Like breastfeeding it
keeps me close to my baby, physically and psychologically, and provides
immediate feedback when I am not tuned in… The beauty of E.C has been
in the process, not in the outcome, however remarkable and convenient.”
The nappy/diaper free way of dealing with your babies
elimination, shows respect for your baby’s needs, openness to their
communication and willingness to respond. When you have become aware of
some patterns emerging around their elimination needs and
communications - for example, most babies eliminate upon awakening, or
after a feed and will often wriggle or show discomfort prior to
elimination – you can begin to hold them out over a bucket, potty,
toilet or even a garden bed when you suspect it may be time.
It
is a good idea to experiment with different positions for holding your
baby during elimination, as what is comfortable for you and your babe
will differ according to their age and size, and where elimination is
taking place. A supported squat is commonly used; with the baby’s back
resting against your chest, where they feel safe and secure, and your
hands holding them underneath each thigh. The baby’s bottom is pointed
slightly away from your body to avoid mess. This open position actually
helps the baby to release their bowels, a handy advantage in those
early months when small babies may have a struggle to release.
You
can also use a cueing sound when you hold the baby out, which can be
anything you like, different for urination and defecation or the same
for both. Some carers use a “psss” noise, ands others…..Consistency is
the key, and the same sound/s should be used by any carers who are
using the nappy/diaper free method with the babe.
This
helps to establish a communication link the baby gives a sign or signal
and is held out in a similar position, with the same sounds. Very
quickly the baby begins to learn, and may exaggerate those signs, or
may cry when he/she needs to eliminate. Likewise, the carers become
more and more confident at reading those signs and responding in time
to ‘catch’ the elimination. The baby learns to relax their sphincter
muscles on cue, thus gaining an awareness of where the muscles are and
what purpose they have, as well as an awareness of control.
As
the practise progresses and the communication deepens, the carers
intuition may also come into play. We can come to intuitively ‘know’
when our baby needs to eliminate and can respond accordingly. This adds
a deeply satisfying element to our relationship with our babies and
reminds us of the incredible energetic exchange that is taking place
between carer and babe.
Elimination Communication can be
practised full or part-time, or can even be put on hold during times
when circumstances make it more difficult ie; when taking long journeys
or at stressful times in a family’s life. Not all families use EC for
nighttimes and naps, or they use nappies/diapers as back-up in case
they don’t make it to the baby immediately upon awakening. As each
family and baby is unique, so is the way they tailor their practise of
EC to suit their needs.
This method of toileting has not
been packaged, sold, and marketed to the masses. It has been handed
down from generation to generation, and is used in different ways by
different cultures. More and more Westerners, aware of the problems our
planet is facing, are also turning to this method as a way of reducing
our environmental impact. The savings in water usage, detergents,
plastics consumed, trees used for wood pulp, chemical production
methods, not to mention non-biodegradable landfill, and unsustainable,
non-organic cotton farming are very significant for the earth.
Elimination Communication turns the tables on infant toilet training, making it ecologically sustainable, fascinating and fun!
Further Information
Infant Potty Training – A Gentle and Primeval Method Adapted to Modern Living, by Laurie Boucke. www.white-boucke.com
Diaper Free! The Gentle Wisdom of Natural Infant Hygiene by Ingrid Bauer. www.natural-wisdom.com
Mothering, Mindfulness and a Babies Bottom by Sarah Buckley. www.womenofspirit.asn.au/sarahbuckley
Nappy Free! Elimination Awareness Explored
VHS or DVD Made in Australia
Available thru www.Natureschild.com.au or 1300 555 632
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